Yeah, I don't like huge power splits, not all the time? Like. I could maybe use a little more "putting my foot down, Mat" from Birdie sometimes rather than long-suffering "please, I've asked you three times?" even though that tends to get through too, BUT we mostly save the power splits for in bed, and not even always then.
But that's sort of what I do for Birdie, even though she can't always write? I like to be able to do the groceries, earn most of the money, deal with making phone calls and shit, so that a) she doesn't have to worry about her anxiety and depression fucking things up (she does anyway, but it's mental illness sparked worry more than actual issues worry, and that's better at least) and that b) when she CAN write, she has the time and ability to do so, and the space to try to get there when she's having trouble.
And also I try to make sure she eats and everything.
It's a nice dynamic, for me - I'd like to have other sorts of dynamics at least from time to time? But not necessarily with HER, just... in general. If that makes sense.
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But that's sort of what I do for Birdie, even though she can't always write? I like to be able to do the groceries, earn most of the money, deal with making phone calls and shit, so that a) she doesn't have to worry about her anxiety and depression fucking things up (she does anyway, but it's mental illness sparked worry more than actual issues worry, and that's better at least) and that b) when she CAN write, she has the time and ability to do so, and the space to try to get there when she's having trouble.
And also I try to make sure she eats and everything.
It's a nice dynamic, for me - I'd like to have other sorts of dynamics at least from time to time? But not necessarily with HER, just... in general. If that makes sense.